More often than not
Today’s Prompt: Today is Chronic Migraine Awareness Day. People with Chronic Migraine have a Migraine or headache more often than not. Think of and share a random act of kindness that you can do for someone with Chronic Migraine.
23 years ago I received the most beautiful random act of kindness. My husband and I had only been married a few months and had just moved into an apartment on campus where we were enrolled for college. He was away and I was alone in the apartment with a horrid migraine. One of the other residents stopped by to welcome me to the building and found me in this horrible state.
She propped me up on the sofa and began to massage my head and neck. This wasn’t just a quick massage either. She kept it up for what seemed like an eternity. She hit all my tender spots and gently massaged the pain away. She must have worked on my head and neck for at least an hour before I fell asleep. Then she quietly let herself out. The next day she dropped by to make sure I was feeling better. She was a total stranger. I don’t remember her name or even her face, but I will never forget what she did. It was the best “housewarming” gift I have ever received. Someday when we are both in Heaven, I will find her and thank her.
This month I have experienced 13 days of migraine pain. That is a good month. Most are much worse. Thanks to my own good self-care, Botox, and a new neurologist, I have hope that the coming months will bring fewer and fewer migraines. Someday I hope to have weeks, even months between attacks. I have often dreamed of what I would do to help someone else with Chronic Migraines, how I would repay the kindness shown to me if I were able and the opportunity presented itself. Here is a list of the most appreciated acts of kindness I have experienced:
- Offer to watch my children
- Prepare or deliver food for my family
- Accompany me to doctor visits
- Learn about my triggers and help me avoid them by being the one to bring migraine-friendly food and beverages to pot luck dinners and refraining from strong chemical or perfume scents.
- Offer to help with cleaning or laundry
- Call and check on me if I miss an event. Let me know I was missed.
- Visit me whether I am healthy or sick
- Bring me ice packs and re-heat hot packs as needed until my meds kick in
- Defend me when others say unkind or stigmatizing things about my illness
I now I have a new wish thanks to my friends at ChronicMigraineAwareness.com. Every June 29th, I will ask my friends to wear purple and red to honor our fight and tell others the truth about our illness. The biggest enemy of those with Chronic Migraines is loneliness. We want and need people in our lives. This gives us hope to keep fighting. It helps us feel “normal” every time we get to socialize, with or without pain.
National Migraine Awareness Month is initiated by the National Headache Foundation.
The Blogger’s Challenge is initiated by www.FightingHeadacheDisorders.com.