“Cutting off your nose to spite your face” happens when we focus on being right or fair despite the negative personal consequences. For migraineurs, there are a lot of opportunities for this to happen. Right or wrong, fair or unfair, sometimes we have to play by someone else’s rule in order to get what we want. It can be difficult to swallow our pride and do what is effective in order to get what we want.
Most people spend their days on “automatic pilot” not really paying attention. We often engage in one activity while our mind is focused on something else. We think we can accomplish more by doing several things at once. This is simply not true. When we bring our whole being into focus on one thing at at time, we are more productive. Sometimes we must quickly switch from one activity to another. The key is to give your full attention to each activity only when you are doing it.
Like a lot of the skills already covered, this one appears simple. Putting it into practice can be a little more complicated. We all like to think that we are non-judgmental. Yet we place value judgments on ourselves, others, and events all the time.
Participation is the last of the “what” Mindfulness skills. It is the natural extension of Observe and Describe. Anyone can sit on the sidelines observing an experience and describing it. Immersing oneself in the experience invites us to be authentic participants in our own lives.
Think about your last migraine in terms of what you observed with your five senses. Take all the time you need to review the event using observation skills.
Achieving mindfulness involves HOW we focus and WHAT we focus on. This time we will be learning how to observe what we focus on with each experience.
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While not strictly a part of DBT skills training, I have found that introducing the concept of Core (or Primary) Emotions helps people recognize and communicate about their emotions more […]
The concept of mindfulness is core to learning all the other DBT skills. Throughout the series we will be referring back to this page. Using this concept, we will be […]
This series will offer ways to incorporate Dialectical Behavior skills into everyday life, especially as it relates to Migraine and other Headache Disorders. One of the unique aspects of DBT is its emphasis on dialectics. Dialectics is the incorporation of opposites. In the case of DBT, clients are taught to embrace both Acceptance of the current circumstances and readiness to Change. While simple in concept, the process is much more difficult.