Migraineurs are often the target of unfair patient-blaming. Many of us get defensive when others suggest we might be to blame for our own suffering. Some have been so terribly hurt by patient-blaming that they resist any suggestion that they might be capable of improving their quality of life by making changes in their lifestyle.
You say, “Just relax. You’ll feel better,” when what you mean is, “Stop being a killjoy and just ignore all those so-called triggers.”