Treatment suggestions – when loved ones get it wrong

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Today’s prompt asks us to consider the quote, “A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality,” attributed to John Lennon.


After doing a little research, it appears there is some controversy over whether or not John actually said these words.  Some people believe the quote originated with Yoko Ono. This got me to thinking. How many times do well-meaning loved ones get it wrong when offering us helpful advice?  Like this quote, the advice isn’t wrong, just out of context.

About a month ago, one of my aunts was excited to share a “migraine breakthrough” with me. She had watched a TV program in which some type of surgery was being used to relieve migraine attacks and wanted me to know it might cure me once and for all.  She wasn’t clear on the details though.  From what I gathered, I think she was referring to occipital and supraorbital neurostim implants. I patiently explained that my doctor and I are aware of the procedure, and that it is an option if my current treatment stops working. I also clarified that it wan’t a cure, just another way to block the pain.

She had no idea how long this treatment option has been available, who was performing it, or if it was proven to be effective or safe.  In short, she only had part of the information and no idea that I already knew about the treatment.

It can be tempting to get annoyed with loved ones in these situations. It’s even more difficult when the treatment they share is outrageous, unproven, or dangerous. Honestly, it would have done me no good to get frustrated.. She will just keep on doing this out of love and concern.

Might I suggest that we extend a little grace to our well-meaning, yet uninformed loved ones? They don’t live with this disease 24/7 like we do. They are not as invested as we are in discovering the truth. It is perfectly okay to educate them, but I wouldn’t expect them to ever catch up to our own knowledge level.


 Do you have loved ones who like to share helpful advice?

How do you typically respond to them?


The 2014 Migraine and Headache Awareness Month, is dedicated to Dreaming of a World without Migraine and Headache Disorders. The 2014 Migraine and Headache Awareness Month Blog Challenge is a project of American Headache & Migraine Association.


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